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As an animal communicator, the animals I connect with all have different experiences. Sometimes they are not socialized in the first weeks after birth. These animals may not want to be touched, but have other ways to show their love. I have met horses that look grumpy, but want to be "loved on" (their words, not mine) despite how they appear. Look for the unique love language your animal displays and know that you can always make your connection deeper.


Here are 5 ways that your animal shows love:

1. Looks into your eyes.

This is the big one. Humans tell me that they feel a connection with their animal(s) when they hold their gaze for a few seconds. In readings, many animals tell me that this is the behavior they use to connect with their human on the soul level.


2. Follows you around.

This is also demonstrating a connection with you. They are tuned into you and want to know what you are going to do next. If they are close to you; they are looking for you to notice their presence and respond with a few words or a touch. Or a treat!


3. Do things that make you laugh.

Animals frequently describe themselves as funny. Their human sometimes says, "Really?" After some thought, they remember antics their animal does to get a laugh and make them feel better. Animals do things to get us to live in the present moment. (If only we could remember this on our own).


4. Shows affection in their own language

Giving you "the look," hanging around you, asking for attention, rubbing up against you, touching you with their nose, paw or beak. Notice how they show affection in their own way. Depending on the species, it can be subtle. Love from my parrot is different than love from my cat.


5. Knows how to best challenge you.

This is the best way they bond with you. I always the love the animals that challenge me. The bad boys! Does this sound familiar? Animals are here to help us learn. The challenges they present to us make us pay attention and help to change our thinking. My cat, Fia, and I are both very independent. (This is called mirroring. More on this in another post). It is apparent, we are together to learn about the value of compromise. She was determined to go outdoors and I insisted on a leash. After many go rounds, we struck a compromise. She now goes outdoors unsupervised. When it is time for her to come back indoors and I am acting rushed or worried, she won't appear until I am chill. What an amazing cat! She makes me manage my own energy! This simple compromise with her has enriched both of our lives. She goes outdoors, I spend more time in the garden to be with her and we are enjoying a happy compromise while working on our soul lesson together.


Wondering what Soul Lesson that you and your animal are working on together? www.sharellbenson.com/copy-2-of-services. Book a 25 minute reading with me to learn more.


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Be the Leader

Horses have our back. There are countless stories of how they heal the human heart…everyday. But, how do we show horses and other animals that we have their back? That we are there for them? I am an animal communicator and animals tell me how much they love it when their human is present to them--connecting and playing with them. They love us, but sometimes they don't respect us!!! Does that sound crazy? Read on!

Horses defer to humans when they step up to the leadership role. The world can be spooky for them, after all, they are prey animals and a lion may leap out of the ditch at any moment! (I had a horse that learned to trust that ditches were safe). Think about the fact that their eyes are on the side of their head. They can't see anything coming from the front. Our role is to be neutral and observe anything that could spook them based on your experience with them and help them overcome their fear. Become the calm leader they want to trust (even if you need to take a few deep breaths to calm yourself). The act of stepping up on their behalf, and not forcing action, makes them trust that you are looking out for them.

I watched two excellent trainers at the MN Horse Expo in May demonstrate how to show leadership. One used “distractions” in the audience, citing a man in a shiny wheelchair on the aisle. The other created “distractions” by shaking a garbage bag that the horse was afraid of initially. One trainer yelled “STOP” at the distraction. The act of yelling reminded me of a lead stallion stamping the ground and taking charge. The trainer with the garbage bag was neutral, but persistent in demonstrating that the rustling sound and the bag itself were nothing to be afraid of. The best advice offered was, when your horse presents its rump to you, simply put your hand on it, and say, “I've got your back.” The energy of the arena collectively sighed into the possibility of it. It was apparent that we all could use that reassurance.

Show Them and Tell Them

The Soul Lessons that I deliver as part of my animal communication readings reveal what your animal is working on with you. I hear lessons such as: “Speak up,” “Be confident,” “Take time to play,” just to name a few. These phrases come directly from the animal. They are asking their human companion to be a leader in their own life! I think we should lean into these lessons by being our best self around all animals. Respect them. Comfort them. Explain about the garbage bag they hate. Shout at the mailbox with the red flag. You will know what to do.

Go ahead, tell them; say it out loud,

"I've got your back!!!"

Interested in learning the Soul Lesson your animal is working on with you? Book a reading with me!


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Fia Has a Goal! The cat I adopted 3-1/2 years ago has opened my mind to allowing animals to become their best selves. Our connection started with aloof detachment and grew into a deep trusting bond as I became a Soul Level Animal Communicator®. My role used to be the food provider and the service person that tossed balls to chase. Now I am her trusted companion who delights at accommodating her whims as directed.

Fia was distinctive as she lounged in her cube at Angel of Hope Rescue. She had the presence of an Empress. She held her head high; she was above antics to get attention. Her description said she was still working on her personal best for playing. Wow! A cat with goals! An Empress! I was so smitten; I took her home after holding her squirming body for only five seconds.


She Made a Vow It didn’t take long to discover that she had made a vow to always be in control. Like every other cat, you say! Not so fast! This one had BIG energy. She was playing harder, rougher, and had more stamina than any animal alive. At 14 months old she was a cat/puppy. She chewed and destroyed blankets, sheets, socks and more. I realized that her vow to be in charge had turned her into a force of nature. Frankly, I began to wonder if I was enough for her. Did she need something I couldn't provide? Her discontent saddened me. And then, the worst thing happened.

I Went on Vacation and So Did She!! Yikes!! I started packing for a kayak trip in Alaska. Two days before my departure, Fia pushed the screen out of a second story window, and made an escape. I was crazy with worry that I would never see her again!! Seven days into my trip I had a feeling of relief and my intuition told me that she was safe. As it turned out, that very day she approached a woman, who took her to the local animal pound. SHE WAS SAFE and even from Alaska I felt a change in her! (Animals don't have to be present for a reading with an animal communicator).

Fia Taught Me to Be Aware and Respect Her Wishes I have rescued Fia twice--once from animal rescue and the second time from the local pound after her “vacation” near coyote territory. When she came home, she was a different cat. I had proven myself as her rescuer and she was now willing to work with me.

I learned to watch and listen. Sometimes she told me things, but mostly she used her teeth to stop an unwanted advance. I learned to respect when she welcomed attention and when it was time to let her be. And you know what? She stopped chewing and being destructive! My awareness and respect for her has reaped huge benefits. While she is still The Empress in control, I now feel her contentment. It makes me smile to know that I am the rescued one.



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